When you’re used to seeking comfort from your former partner, it can feel almost automatic to seek them out to help you deal with your post-breakup pain. After all, who could know what you’re going through better than your ex?
Unfortunately, leaning on your ex for emotional support during the breakup might keep you from fully disconnecting from the relationship.
“It’s much healthier to seek support from loved ones and helping professionals, not from the source of your pain. Take time and space away from your ex to reflect on the relationship and what went wrong within it. Only then will you be able to detach from your ex and move on with a clear head and fresh perspective,” Christie Federico, M. Ed., licensed therapist and relationship coach, told INSIDER.
When you need a shoulder to cry on, look for comfort from your friends, family, or a licensed professional before contacting your ex.